Voila…..The Penis!!!!!

(Sequel to Reclaiming your orgasms)

Pleasure is a very important part of our sexuality.
Due to the differences in our genitalia and bodies, it can be a bit daunting for men and women to navigate and figure out what gets their sexual partners off. Like women, pleasuring some men are can be a bit more but with a little getting-to-knowing him, his body and his penis, you should be good…and then some..

There’s much more to arousing your partner than kissing a path down his body so for starters, let’s get properly acquainted with the penis and it’s neighbours:

The glans of the penis, also referred to as the head,  is most erogenous part of the penis and is extremely rich in nerve endings. The frenulum (which is the V shaped part under the head) is where the pleasure receptors are at their most concentrated, making it the most sensitive. The soft area on the underside of the penis is the equivalent of the female G-Spot (not to be confused with the male P Spot), a firm touch will produce intense pleasure while the rim is one of the most touch-receptive areas. The penis size is mostly from the shaft (the body of the penis) and it has the least nerve endings. The scrotum protects and regulates the temperature of the testicles and can be one of the most sensitive parts of a man’s body but not always in a good way. The perineum is the area between the scrotum and the anus and finally the anus, which I’m sure we are all very acquainted with. The prostate is a semen storing gland at the root of the penis which can be difficult to reach but when stimulated, can cause powerful orgasms. Make sure to trim your nails, use lube, and consider vibrators and butt plugs when hitting the P Spot. But if your prostate is enlarged, be careful as it may cause pain.
Tip: try a prostate massager.

Beautiful and entertaining, the male genital is full of surprises and can be endlessly fun to play with. Knowing how it works and which are the most sensitive areas to stimulate, is a great way to please your partner and yourself because pleasuring your partner should turn you on as well. Remember, ejaculation does not equal pleasure.
Every man is different, so make sure you talk to your man about what he likes, but you generally want to pay some very special attention to these important areas.
The head, frenulum and rim are all very sensitive to rapid stroking, start off slowly and speed up for maximum pleasure. Experiment with different sensations; use different parts of your hands and mouth especially along the shaft, base and near the head. Kiss, lick, suck and nibble (VERY GENTLY) all over this baby for intense sensations. Try slow, firm pressure. It can be very effective and it certainly is one to try on the underside of the penis, where it is softer! Some men enjoy gentle tugging on their scrotum but sucking(very gently sis), cupping and licking is always pleasurable. Use your fingers to stroke the perineum or apply some pressure either in tune to thrusts during sex or when giving a blow job. Some men enjoy a little anal play also; stimulate the opening either with your finger, mouth or a toy.
The closer your man is to cumming, the more his balls draw up. To prolong his orgasm, tug on them gently away from his body in a rhythmic pattern.

Noooooooooooow, does size really matter?

Men have been made so insecure about the lengths and girths of their penises when, in reality, satisfaction can’t be measured. It really just comes down to using what your mama gave you. Most women get the majority of their sexual pleasure from the external stimulation of the clitoris, and the penis is not a necessary part of external clitoral stimulation. A longer penis has been associated with more vaginal, especially cervical, orgasms while a girthier penis is also associated with more sensation at the entrance of the vagina and G-Spot. There are so many different sexual positions. Experiment with all of them and find out which ones accommodate you and your partner and maximize pleasure for both.

As I stated in my previous post, communication is very important with any form of intimacy. It would seem that a lot of men are having very underwhelming or disappointing sex for several reasons. A friend told me about his ex who literally lay still, spread her legs and made no sounds whatsoever the first time they had sex. She was not into oral sex and he could not continue because it was too weird and unnerving for him. Another friend shared how he had been sexting with this girl for sometime and she talked the baddest game. She insisted on felating him but bit him and kept scrapping his dick with her teeth rather painfully.
Blowjob tip: when going down on him, his dick should not. It is painful to try to twist the penis in any other direction but up or out. Don’t try to bend it as you can break it.

Asides genitals, there are other erogenous spots on a man’s body; the v-zone of the torso, under the lower lip, the front of his neck and around the Adam’s apple, his nipples, under his ankle, his lower back and earlobes.

When giving him a hand-job, form two rings with the thumb and index fingers of both hands and move them in opposite directions from the middle to the top of his penis and the base at the same time. The “torrid twist” is amazing but please use lube.

Brush your closed and softly pouting lips against his penis like you’re applying lipstick. Open your mouth a bit and rub it between your moist pouting lips. Try cradling his balls in one hand while gently pressing the first two fingertips of your other hand into the top of the crease (close to where the testicles connect to the base of his penis). Then, trace downwards with your fingers until you reach the bottom of his scrotum. But don’t forget to be gentle! When you’re going down on him, hold his penis steady with one hand while really giving his crown your all. Each time you circle your tongue around to his frenulum, flick it a few times with your tongue stiffened, and then relax and go back to licking the crown.
Kiss your partner across his shoulder, up his neck, and stopping right before you hit his ear. Do this to both sides, because asymmetry is less fun and predictable. When he’s right about to lose it, start kissing his earlobe, and use your tongue to bring his earlobe into your mouth. Play around with gentle nibbles, tongue, etc. Be careful not to touch any other part of his body while doing this and see how wild he gets from you just touching his earlobes.
Have him lay on his back while you straddle him and give him a view of your scalp as you make your way down on him. Starting from his belly button, use your fingers and nails to trace a line down from his happy trail stopping before you hit total groin. Then retrace your steps, but use your tongue to trace a “V” shape from his hips to right above his penis. Draw it out and really tease him until he can’t take it any longer. Lap at his throat with the pad of your tongue flat and lightly with wide circular motions to ensure you’re hitting that T-spot of the thyroid. Lick his areola like an ice cream cone, but never touching tongue to nip. Get closer and closer until you flick his nipple with your tongue and then gently bite it. Slowly build up the pressure and don’t be afraid to nip (not a hurtful bite) him harder. If you wanna be really extra, you can suck on an ice cube beforehand for more sensation.
Lightly run your fingers down across his lower back in circles or patterns, stopping before you hit ass cheek.
While in reverse cowgirl, grab his feet and pulse each pressure point in rhythm with your thrusts. Try this right before he’s about to cum to really blow his mind.

Enjoy x